In previous posts, I covered sixteen lovers and sixteen heroes and villains (link below). In the upcoming months, we are going to use the mannequins from Story Building Blocks and do a deep dive on what each character is like as a parent and how they deal with the other characters as children.
Family dynamics, especially parent and child, have a long-lasting impact on how your characters are formed. You don’t have to write a family saga to utilize this insight. It will shape who your character becomes as an adult. It can play a big part in a young adult story world. Even in Science Fiction or Dystopian futures, human traits remain. Childhoods can twist and destroy. A good family can make your hero more lovable and a motivated hero. Mix a character with a good childhood without to give them different world views and definitions of family. Sibling rivalry can be a factor. Who did the parent love more? Who did they connect with? Who did they clash with the most? There are many opportunities to infuse conflict in your plot with parents and children. You can mix parents with different styles. You can craft a complex family dynamic based on their temperaments and needs. As always with any of the traits, you can make them benevolent or malevolent.
The sixteen profiles can be either male or female. I alternated he and she. The character can be a father, mother, grandparent, aunt, uncle, foster family, or other primary caregiver.
This post will focus on the mannequin MORGAN.
Morgan is fun and inventive but inconsistent. Everything is
a learning experience. He encourages his children to experiment and think for
themselves. He ignores the day-to-day workings of the household. He praises his
children for their intelligence and skill. He wants to be admired in that way
too. He fares best with intuitive thinkers. A self-regulating child will do
fine. He finds a needy child suffocating. An emotional wild child perplexes
him. He may avoid spending time with that child. He spends quality time but
often forgets about his family when he is in full work mode. He is emotionally
aloof. He shows love through sporadic grand gestures rather than affection or
loving affirmations. He makes unilateral decisions without considering his
children’s needs. He isn’t the disciplinarian. Morgan may physically or
emotionally leave the war zone he creates. He bristles at outside criticism. Morgan
encourages subversive acts against authority and will side with his child. He
will not take it well if his competence as a parent is questioned. He can be an
irresponsible enabler. Morgan is naturally drawn to Morgan, Dallas, Kelly,
Greer, and Lee. His opposite is Wynn.
MORGAN/WYNN
Wynn is easy to please and seeks approval. She needs clear
consistent rules and a secure routine. She won’t get those things from Morgan.
Wynn can’t handle suffocating attention but she will be hurt by Morgan’s hands
off approach to parenting. Wynn’s neediness will push Morgan away. He isn’t
comfortable with emotional demands. He tries to make things fun and won’t be
any fun. She is too serious, too traditional. When stressed, Wynn suffers
silently. She won’t mention the million ways he cuts her. Chaos will make her
feel unstable. She will be lost and Morgan won’t look for her. This pairing
could result in a tragedy. While Morgan isn’t necessarily abusive, he isn’t
nurturing enough for Wynn either. Resentment will build. If Wynn blows and
tells Morgan all the ways he let her down, he won’t take it well. It will be
Wynn’s fault not his that their relationship failed.
MORGAN/FRANCIS
Francis needs order, structure, calm, and a predictable
schedule. Morgan won’t provide that. He struggles with overly emotional people.
Francis isn’t comfortable with new people or situations. He clings to close
friends. He is meticulous and puts schoolwork before play. Morgan will
appreciate this self-regulating kid but not really understand him. Morgan’s attempts
to pull Francis into his party will backfire, making Francis more rigid.
Francis likes group events where he can show off his competence. If Morgan
questions his competence, even in jest, it will result in low self-esteem.
Francis becomes rigid in the face of uncertainty and could be a bully. Morgan
doesn’t have the skill set to manage Francis. If Morgan is a criminal, Francis
will be happy to turn him in. Morgan may get tired of judgmental Francis and
leave him behind.
MORGAN/NEVADA
Nevada needs structure, security and personal attention. Not
getting those things from Morgan will make him clingy. This will push Morgan
even further away. Nevada craves acceptance and is eager to please. He does
what he is expected to do. He follows the rules if fair and reasonable. He
struggles to conform to new situations and Morgan tends to be mercurial, moving
on to new challenges, not considering the repercussions to everyone else.
Nevada speaks out against unfairness. He becomes resentful and angry if he
doesn't get the praise he seeks. Morgan’s occasional grand gesture won’t do
enough to make Nevada feel loved. Nevada
is furious when other people break the rules and Morgan breaks all the rules.
When Morgan lets him down, Nevada will turn on him. Nevada becomes willfully
obstinate if violated. He would happily take Morgan down and turn him in after
a lifetime of broken promises and disappointments. They are likely to form a
permanent rift.
MORGAN/ARDEN
Arden is an active toddler. He likes to experiment and needs
constant activity and change. He isn’t a snuggler. He hates standing still and
that can be exhausting. He grows sullen and depressed if deprived of
opportunities. Morgan is the perfect parent for Arden. Unfortunately they may
create major messes along the way. If there is no one to hold them to account,
they can spiral out of control, pushing each other to more outrageousness.
Arden is curious and likes to disassemble things. He is eager to share his
findings. Morgan will be delighted and participate. Arden wants to impress and
wants to earn those trophies and badges. He wants to excel. He can resort to acting up to get attention or break up the
monotony. Morgan won’t hold him accountable. They could be the best, wildest
buddies or run each other into ruin. They are too much alike and each will
blame the other.
MORGAN/BLAIR
Blair needs love and nurturing. Morgan being absent,
inattentive, and busy makes her feel lost. She needs a solid foundation from which to flit, which seems
contradictory to other people. She is quiet and plays by herself, inventing her own world. She
is artistic and highly sensitive, a daydreamer. Morgan will not understand this
child. He will quickly grow bored with her. Blair is pleasant and kind and
nurturing toward others. She makes special gifts. Morgan likes the occasional
grand gesture, but he isn’t consistent. He might not react the way Blair needs
him to. Blair resists change and Morgan loves change. Morgan will make Blair’s
life chaotic. She becomes resistant when her world doesn’t feel safe. The more
Blair balks, the more frustrated Morgan will become. Morgan could leave the
situation entirely, leaving Blair hurt and confused and wondering why she wasn’t
enough. Morgan won’t worry too much about her. If they ever have a
confrontation, Morgan will defend his actions and won’t understand the
emotional aspect of Blair’s criticism.
MORGAN/DALLAS
Dallas is a restless child. She is suffocated by
restrictions or cloying caregivers. She isn’t a cuddler. She is a dangerous
loose cannon and will try anything. She needs to be corralled and Morgan is
hands off, leaving her to spin out. Dallas is a ringleader of her siblings or
in school. Her attention is fleeting. She doesn’t do anything long
enough to master it. She forgets to do what she is supposed to. Morgan won’t
care. Dallas hates being stuck at a desk listening to other people talk. Morgan
is likely to take her out for adventures, getting them both in trouble. When the
school or other parents criticize his parenting style, he will double down and
Dallas will defend him. They could have a very enjoyable, if chaotic, life
together. It can lead to disaster for both of them.
MORGAN/HADLEY
Hadley is an easy baby. She needs calm, personalized
attention. Morgan will make her anxious and fretful. Hadley is agreeable and
enthusiastic. Morgan will sometimes delight her and sometimes let her down. Hadley
wants to try everything once but quickly drops it. Morgan won’t make her stick
to anything. He is likely to encourage her to do more. Hadley wants to be seen
and heard and offers deep insights. Morgan might be too busy to give her the
attention she needs. She shuts down in the face of criticism and everything is
criticism. Hadley is easily led and hates leaving friends even though her
friendships tend to be fluid. This is a situation where a steadying influence
is needed. Morgan is more likely to party with her and her friends. Morgan
wants to be part of the fun. That can be disastrous for both.
MORGAN/SHELBY
Shelby is a quiet baby with a low threshold for excitement. She
needs calm and consistent nurturing. Too much handling, moving around, and
chaos make her cranky. Morgan will not give her the peaceful home she needs.
Shelby will cry to escape the torture when caregivers shake her up and show her
off. Shelby likes playing by herself, with her toys, or with her imaginary
friends. She likes to daydream and doodle. Morgan will not understand this
quiet child. Where did she come from? Shelby won’t want to join in his parties.
She hates teams and groups and is highly sensitive to criticism. She is
reserved around new people and bonds with a best friend. She can be a loner.
Morgan’s grand gestures and attempts to bring her into the party will push her
away. Shelby turns her pain inward. She will wonder why he has to be so flighty
and resent him for not making sure things are taken care of. Shelby may go
looking elsewhere for the love and approval she needs. She could get lucky and
find the peace loving family she desperately needed. Or she could end up in an
abusive situation, recreating the chaos she wanted to escape.
MORGAN/JOSS
Joss is a quiet but busy child. He is a fearless daredevil. He
accepts structure and concrete rules but needs flexibility. He asks permission
but finds a way around it if told “no.” He grows bored when options are
limited. Morgan and Joss will get along well. There is trouble if there isn’t
anyone to put on the breaks. Both like to take things apart to see how they
work. They could bond over this activity. Both get lost in his hobbies and work.
Joss is a good student, but chafes at rote learning. He gets in trouble for not
paying attention or sitting still. Morgan will defend him. When Morgan is
criticized, he fire backs, moving or taking Joss out of the school. Joss tries
harder to control his world if it spirals out of control and Morgan could very
well make his life chaotic. While they have a lot of similarities, Joss could
resent Morgan for not providing even the bare necessities. He may not want the
changes Morgan thrives on. They could be thick as thieves, or have enough
points of conflict that they turn on each other.
MORGAN/KELLY
Kelly is a freedom-loving, active, and cranky baby. If his
caregivers crave a consistent schedule, they are out of luck. He transplants
easily. Kelly can't sit still and play alone. He craves attention and creates
chaos to get it. Morgan is naturally chaotic. Kelly will thrive in this
environment and probably get away with too much. Kelly won't abide by rules or
conform. He collects friends and needs to be on the move. He is a ringleader of
mischief. He needs firm hand, not an iron fist. Morgan is neither. Kelly can be
self-destructive if thwarted. He learns how to manipulate early and becomes a
bully. Morgan can be easily outsmarted and manipulated by Kelly. It’s a case of
a wild child raising a wild child. They could be partners in crime. Neither are
likely to have stable lives.
MORGAN/GREER
Greer is happy, easy going, and likes to explore. He happily
plays alone and asks odd challenging questions. He enjoys fantasy, mystery,
inventing, and thinking. Can't handle chaos. Needs routine and safety. While
Morgan is too chaotic for Greer, they may bond over Greer’s hobbies and
interests. Greer doesn’t like being fussed over or the center of attention. In
this regard, Morgan’s tendency to forget he has a child isn’t a problem. Morgan
is neither suffocating nor gooey. Greer Doubts himself and takes criticism
hard. Morgan hates being criticized as well. They could dig at each other over
small things. Especially when the day to day things aren’t taken care of. Greer
could critique Morgan’s parenting and Morgan will push back and put Greer down.
MORGAN/TAYLOR
Taylor is a peaceful child and needs calm. Chaotic and
unpredictable Morgan will make her anxious. Taylor is friendly and values
harmony. Pleasing others makes her happy. She may try to please Morgan. His
occasional grand gestures aren’t enough appreciation. Taylor takes charge of
playroom and siblings. She is likely to be the adult in the situation. Taylor
is hurt if she senses disapproval or if her efforts are rejected. Morgan may
not appreciate her attempts to manage him. Taylor overextends herself by trying
to play with everyone and must be reined in. If anything, Morgan will push her
to do more. If Morgan is absent or busy, he will allow her to spiral out of
control. Growing up too soon, having to parent herself, and the distance
between them is a recipe for a lifetime of resentment and misunderstanding.
MORGAN/CAM
Cam is a quiet, low maintenance child. He won’t ask for
anything, even for what he needs. He is good because it’s important to be good not to please
others. He expects everyone else to be good too: caregivers, siblings, teachers,
and friends. Cam is self regulating and responsible. It is a good thing Cam can
raise himself. Greer will be critical of Morgan’s faults and inability to handle
the daily chores. Morgan can create a chaotic and highly dysfunctional home.
This will push Cam further inside his shell. He spends a lot of time
daydreaming and thinking. His questioning of authority and probing questions make
adults squirm. Morgan won’t appreciate being judged or questioned. Cam develops
his own belief system and does not conform to what others believe. He may
challenge Morgan’s every choice. Cam withdraws to protect and Morgan runs. The
distance will grow and even with Morgan’s occasional grand gesture, Cam will
probably never trust him.
MORGAN/MORGAN
Child Morgan is a lively baby. He walks, talks, and gets
into everything early. He might do them all a little differently. Caregivers
who expect everything to happen on time and in the right way are frustrated. He
has a lively questioning mind. He takes risks and outwits dim caregivers,
teachers, or other authority figures. Parent Morgan’s inattention leaves plenty
of room for child Morgan to get into trouble. Both like creative projects and
follow their unique interests wherever they lead. They could bond over shared
passions. Both like to tinker and invent. Both are outgoing. They will enjoy
orchestrating activities, assigning roles, and overseeing the progress. Child
Morgan is parent Morgan’s mini-me. Unfortunately neither are likely to take
care of the day to day necessities. Child Morgan is irritated when he doesn't
get his way. Morgan isn’t a harsh disciplinarian, but he may not be able to
give Morgan everything he wants. Both can be clowns and neither likes group activities.
Together, they are a whirlwind and may prove too much for neighbors, friends,
teachers, other children, and an additional parental figure. They will push
each other to more outrageous things. Then present the occasional big surprise
or gift to ask for forgiveness.
MORGAN/LEE
Lee is a high-demand baby. If placed with absent or
self-absorbed caregivers, she screams until someone pays attention to her. She
proves exhausting to the most attentive caregiver and Morgan isn’t very
attentive. Lee knows her own mind from the day she can talk and tells you what
she wants and does not want. She will happily raise herself and be critical of
Morgan for not carrying his weight. Lee excels at whatever she chooses to
participate in. She is in competition with herself not others, but they might
not realize it. Morgan may admire her skill but be irritated by her dominance.
Lee is a leader on the playground and becomes the enemy of anyone who doesn’t
follow along. She is the quintessential queen bee. Morgan will be more in her
way than an asset. In truth, Lee probably scares him a little. Lee won’t waste
much time grieving if Morgan takes off. She will probably be relieved she doesn’t
have to deal with his shenanigans anymore. Morgan could prove to be a thorn in
Lee’s side the rest of her life unless she cuts him loose.
MORGAN/RIVER
River is a quiet baby. She is content to observe the world. Morgan
is busy, aggressive, and outgoing which will make her cry. She needs peace and
quiet to thrive and Morgan is incapable of providing that. River lives in a
dream world most of the time. Morgan would have to drag her kicking and
screaming to play groups or to the playground. He won’t consider River fun. She
is too quiet. To reserved. How can this be his child? River has one or two
friends. She perceives the world as treacherous and trust is vital. Her life
with Morgan will not give her security and she will find it difficult to trust
other people. River’s emotional skin is thin. Though he won’t intend it, Morgan
will hurt her in a million tiny ways. River won’t fight with him. She hates
violence and discord. She will simply withdraw and escape when finds a way out.
They will never understand each other. Morgan’s grand gestures will be too
little too late. River doesn’t need things. She needs emotional continuity and
physical security. He won’t know how to give her what she needs and she may
never forgive him for it.
Next week, we introduce LEE.
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