In previous posts, I covered sixteen lovers and sixteen heroes and villains (link below). In the upcoming months, we are going to use the mannequins from Story Building Blocks and do a deep dive on what each character is like as a parent and how they deal with the other characters as children. Family dynamics, especially parent and child, have a long-lasting impact on how your characters are formed. You don’t have to write a family saga to utilize this insight. It will shape who your character becomes as an adult. It can play a big part in a young adult story world. Even in Science Fiction or Dystopian futures, human traits remain. Childhoods can twist and destroy. A good family can make your hero more lovable and a motivated hero. Mix a character with a good childhood without to give them different world views and definitions of family. Sibling rivalry can be a factor. Who did the parent love more? Who did they connect with? Who did they clash with the most? There are many opportunities to infuse conflict in your plot with parents and children. You can mix parents with different styles. You can craft a complex family dynamic based on their temperaments and needs. As always with any of the traits, you can make them benevolent or malevolent.
The sixteen profiles can be either male or female. I alternated he and she. The character can be a father, mother, grandparent, aunt, uncle, foster family, or other primary caregiver.
This post will focus on the mannequin RIVER.
River is patient, intensely loving, and devoted. She showers loving affirmations and gifts. She is hurt if they don’t return the favor. River wants to be admired for her wisdom and desire for harmony. She has high ideals. River is always vaguely dissatisfied because things are never perfect. She is easily hurt if nurturing is rejected. River tries to teach right from wrong, though her definitions may be a bit different. River supports individualism. She wants her children to think for themselves. She isn’t terribly social and her mystic bent can prove embarrassing. River tends to overshare her feelings and is constantly taking everyone’s emotional temperature. River takes objective statements as criticism and she can’t handle criticism. River can be selfless. She will make sacrifices for the good of others. She is gentle until she feels violated. River represses negative emotions until she bursts. River can be critical and self-absorbed. She ignores misbehavior until she can't. River needs a partner to play bad cop. She can enforce firm rules if they make her children unhappy. River will defend her children against outside criticism. She will cover up misdeeds and make excuses. Her children are special and misunderstood. Her children may not be psychically sensitive, but very adept at manipulation. She is naturally drawn to River, Wynn, Cam, Taylor, and Shelby. Her complete opposite is Kelly.
RIVER/WYNN
Wynn is easy to please and seeks approval. She needs clear, consistent rules and routine. River is a very nurturing parent. She will provide the safe space for Wynn to thrive. River can be a bit smothering, which Wynn will struggle with. This should be a fairly peaceful pairing. River wants to make her child happy and Wynn wants to make her happy. There could be disagreements over belief systems or rules, but it will be mild. Both suffer in silence and repress until they explode. River might be too offbeat for Wynn. They will muddle along with small misunderstandings that could build. If their beliefs differ significantly, it will create a rift. Wynn could be led by other people to rebel against her mother’s expectations. River will be deeply hurt that Wynn turned against her. It would take a serious crisis for them to blow and create a permanent rift.
RIVER/FRANCIS
Francis needs order, structure, calm, and a predictable schedule. He is not comfortable with new people or situations. River provides the safe nest for Francis to thrive. Francis clings to close friends and so does River. Francis likes group events where he can show off his competence. This situation causes River anxiety. She isn’t a group oriented person. She isn’t interested in ambition and badges and awards. She may be proud of her child, but not eager to join in. She does like to be of service though, and could volunteer for something out of the limelight. River is more likely to praise Francis and build his self-esteem. He struggles with overly emotional people, which River can be. Francis is meticulous and puts schoolwork before play. Francis becomes rigid in the face of uncertainty and could be a bully. River is a fairly stable, easy-going parent but finds it difficult to impose her will or rules. If Francis finds her easy to manipulate, it could get ugly. He could be intolerant of River’s mystical bent. Francis is more mainstream. She could embarrass him. Francis will do everything he can to escape from that and prove he isn’t part of an aberrant system. On the other hand, Francis is an enforcer. If they share a belief system, he could be more rigid and extreme than River.
RIVER/NEVADA
Nevada needs structure, security and personal attention. He craves acceptance and is eager to please. River gives him the environment he needs to thrive. Nevada does what he is expected to do. He follows the rules if fair and reasonable. Nevada struggles to conform to new situations. He speaks out against unfairness. He is furious when other people break the rules. As long as River’s belief system doesn’t push Nevada too far out of his comfort zone, they will be mutually supportive. Nevada can turn against River if she lets him down. River will lavish Nevada with the praise he desires. She won’t intentionally try to control him or press him in directions he doesn’t want to go. Their point of contention could be River’s belief system or mysticism. This could prove embarrassing to Nevada. He becomes willfully obstinate if violated. However, Nevada is a shepherd type and if he embraces River’s belief system, he could easily fold in and become an effective part of the community. It would take something extraordinary to cause a massive rift between them. They would more likely find themselves on opposite sides of an idealogical chasm.
RIVER/ARDEN
Arden is an active toddler. He likes to experiment and needs constant activity and change. He grows sullen and depressed if deprived of opportunities. River’s peaceful refuge might prove suffocating for Arden. He is curious and likes to disassemble things. He is eager to share his findings. He isn’t a snuggler. He hates standing still and that can be exhausting. River will take it as rejections. Arden wants to impress and wants to earn those trophies and badges. He wants to excel. While River will appreciate his skill, she isn’t keen on the competition angle. She wants peace and cooperation. She might not support Arden in the ways he needs. Arden can resort to acting up to get attention or break up the monotony. River will not understand and she isn’t good at discipline and redirecting him. They could hurt each other in small ways and spend a lifetime misunderstanding each other. River won’t understand when Arden takes off to explore his interests and leaves her behind.
RIVER/BLAIR
Blair needs love and nurturing. She needs a solid foundation from which to flit. River will provide the peaceful loving nest where Blair will thrive but the flitting will make her anxious. Blair is quiet and plays by herself, inventing her own world. She is artistic and highly sensitive, a daydreamer like her parent. Blair is pleasant and kind and nurturing toward others. Also like her parent. They exchange special gifts. Blair isn’t rebellious unless restricted and River isn’t good with boundaries or enforcement. Neither likes conflict and drama. They may never tell each other if they hurt or let each other down. Both are driven to heal rifts. It would take Blair flitting off and flirting with something pretty drastic to cause a rift with River. They could find themselves disagreeing on a belief system or ideology.
RIVER/DALLAS
Dallas is a restless child. She is suffocated by River’s cloying attention. Dallas isn’t a cuddler which River will take as rejection. Dallas is a dangerous loose cannon and will try anything. She needs to be corralled. River simply doesn’t know how. River will be at a loss as to how to deal with this rebel. Dallas is a ringleader of her siblings or in school. She may rule the roost instead of River. Dallas’s attention is fleeting. She doesn’t do anything long enough to master it. She hates being stuck at a desk listening to other people talk. She forgets to do what she is supposed to. River will be disappointed by Dallas’s actions but will blame herself. What did she do wrong? Why isn’t this child appreciative of what she has? Why can’t she behave? If unchecked, Dallas becomes a very wild child. River will make excuses for Dallas and likely enable her all while feeling very hurt by what she sees as betrayal. Dallas could despise a parent she sees as dull and weak.
RIVER/HADLEY
Hadley is an easy baby. River supplies the calm, personalized attention Hadley needs. Hadley is agreeable and enthusiastic. She wants to try everything once but quickly drops it. This will disappoint River. She isn’t a pushy parent and she doesn’t have a specific goal for Hadley but she wants her to do what is expected. Hadley wants to be seen and heard and offers deep insights. River and Hadley can have a very deep friendship and bond over their belief system. Both are generally kind and don’t thrive on drama. Even though River is nurturing, Hadley shuts down in the face of criticism. When River offers advice and guidance it will be misconstrued as criticism. River won’t know what the problem is because Hadley won’t express it. Hadley hates leaving friends even though her friendships tend to be fluid. She is easily led and if she becomes involved in other belief systems or alternative ways of life, she could leave River feeling deserted and disrespected. If her daughter moves on and moves off, it will feel like the worst betrayal. Hadley isn’t intentionally cruel but will cause damage with casual neglect.
RIVER/SHELBY
Shelby is a quiet baby with a low threshold for excitement. River provides calm and consistent nurturing. Too much handling, moving around, and chaos makes Shelby cranky. River can be a little too enmeshed. Shelby likes playing by herself, with her toys, or with her imaginary friends. She likes to daydream and doodle. River is the same. They can share a love of quiet pursuits likes books and crystals. Shelby hates teams and groups and River won’t push her to do join in. This can cause problems at school. Shelby is reserved around new people and bonds with a best friend. She can be a loner. River understands and shares these tendencies. Shelby is highly sensitive to criticism and she will face criticism at school. The other kids might think them odd. Both turn their pain inward. River may miss Shelby’s depression and anxiety. She will defend her child to the school and rail against the bullies. River would likely home school Shelby rather than make her conform. This might not be the best way to teach Shelby how to navigate life. The two could end up dysfunctionally enmeshed.
RIVER/JOSS
Joss is a quiet but busy child. He is a fearless daredevil. He accepts structure and concrete rules but needs flexibility. He asks permission but finds a way around it if told “no.” He grows bored when options are limited. River will find him to be a handful. Joss takes things apart to see how they work, but doesn’t tell anyone what he learns. He gets lost in his hobbies. Joss is a good student, but chafes at rote learning. He gets in trouble for not paying attention or sitting still. River will defend him at school. She will say the school and teachers are the problem. Joss and River aren’t likely to clash much. River is a doting, tolerant parent and Joss may be more adventurous but isn’t openly rebellious unless a core value is violated. It would take something catastrophic to tear them apart or turn them against each other. Joss might not share his parent’s mystical bent. Depending on the level of River’s participation, it could cause disagreements. Joss is likely to go off on adventures and build a life separate from River and she will feel left behind despite her sacrifices.
RIVER/KELLY
Kelly is a freedom-loving, active, and cranky baby. If River craves a consistent schedule, she is out of luck. He transplants easily. Kelly can't sit still and play alone. He craves attention and creates chaos to get it. He won't abide by rules or conform. River is very attentive but is incapable of enforcing healthy boundaries. Kelly collects friends and needs to be on the move. He is a ringleader of mischief. He needs firm hand. Kelly will get away with too much. River isn’t capable of reining him in. He will run rings around her. Kelly can be self-destructive if thwarted. He will ridicule River’s attempts to influence him and her belief system. Kelly is a man of the world, and River is a spiritual earth mother. It is a pairing of opposites. There is plenty of room for conflict. Kelly learns how to manipulate early and can become a bully. He could easily control River. She will be hurt by his treatment but be unable to turn the tables and take control.
RIVER/GREER
Greer is happy, easy-going, and likes to explore. He needs routine and safety. He happily plays alone. He asks odd challenging questions. River will enjoy nurturing this easy child. However, Greer won’t like River fussing over him. She may suffocate him. River will be charmed by his quirks. Greer enjoys fantasy, mystery, inventing, and thinking. They could easily be involved in the same belief system. Greer doubts himself and can take criticism hard. Criticism will come from the outside world and other students. River will defend him against them all. They are in the wrong, not her child. River can be an overprotective mother, keeping Greer from achieving full maturity. They could become too enmeshed. If Greer did make it off to college, he might start to question River’s beliefs and methods. He could come home a critical stranger. River will feel betrayed. She thought she had the perfect child. How could he turn his back on her?
RIVER/TAYLOR
River provides the peace and calm Taylor needs to thrive. Taylor is friendly and values harmony. Pleasing others makes her happy. They will be supporting and nurturing to each other. Taylor takes charge of playroom and siblings. She may take charge of the household. River will probably fondly step back and allow it. She wants her children to be happy. That might not be in Taylor’s best interest. Taylor is hurt if she senses disapproval or if her efforts are rejected. The problem comes from the outside with other people. Taylor overextends herself by trying to play with everyone. River isn’t good and reining her in. Taylor could spiral out of control simply because River wants her to have everything. No one should have everything. Taylor is set up for an unrealistic idea of what a healthy relationship looks like. She will meet disapproval and criticism. River will comfort her saying it isn’t her, it’s them. Taylor is perfect. The other people are wrong. If Taylor escapes River’s echo chamber, she may realize her mother has faults and maybe question her beliefs and opinions. River will be hurt by this. They won’t have a massive fight, but perhaps have a lifetime of mutual disapproval and hurt feelings.
RIVER/CAM
Cam is a quiet, low maintenance child. He won’t ask for anything, even for what he needs. He is good because it’s important to be good not to please others. He expects everyone else to be good too: caregivers, siblings, teachers, and friends. River will provide the nurturing calm life Cam needs to thrive. He spends a lot of time daydreaming and thinking. His questioning of authority and probing questions make River squirm. Cam is self regulating and responsible. He won’t cause River a lot of trouble. The conflict happens when Cam develops his own belief system and does not conform to what others believe. If he turns against River’s beliefs and opinions, she will be hurt and offended. Why is he doing this to her? Didn’t she give him everything? Didn’t she devote herself to his wellbeing? How can he betray her? Both withdraw to protect. There won’t be any screaming matched. Cam may come to despise his mother and move on to live a life different than hers. She will be crushed.
RIVER/MORGAN
Morgan is a lively baby. He walks, talks, and gets into everything early. He might do them all a little differently. If River expects everything to happen on time and in the right way, she will be frustrated. But she provides a calm and nurturing environment. Morgan has a lively questioning mind. He takes risks and outwits dim caregivers, teachers, or other authority figures. He may run rings around River. Morgan likes creative projects and follows his unique interests wherever they lead. His penchant for invention is evident early on. River may be enchanted by his exploration and invention. She will offer support and encouragement. Morgan is outgoing but doesn’t like group activities. He likes to orchestrate activities, assign roles, and oversee the progress. He may attempt to manage River. Morgan is irritated when he doesn't get his way. He will clown around and try to make her laugh if she expresses displeasure. River isn’t an authoritarian, so Morgan may get away with too much. It could develop into an enabling mother and a rogue of a child.
RIVER/LEE
Lee is a high-demand baby. She screams until someone pays attention to her. River offers a calm and nurturing environment, but Lee proves exhausting to the most attentive caregiver. She knows her own mind from the day she can talk and tells you what she wants and does not want. She is a more dominant force than River and will steamroll right over her. Lee excels at whatever she chooses to participate in. She is in competition with herself not others, but they might not realize it. She is a leader on the playground and becomes the enemy of anyone who doesn’t follow along. She is the quintessential queen bee. Lee will likely learn to despise River and her unusual beliefs and her spiritual earth mother persona. Lee is very keen on money, success, and status. River values the opposite. They won’t have much in common. River may very well wonder where this child came from. Lee will easily leave River in the dust and River will be hurt by the betrayal. She will never get the appreciation for all her sacrifices and hard work. Those have no value for Lee and it actually makes her seem weak. Lee hates weakness. If anything forced Lee to return for some reason, it is unlikely they can heal the breach.
Child River is a quiet baby. She is content to observe the world. Parent River provides the peace and quiet she needs to thrive. Both live in a dream world most of the time. They are so much alike, they should have a peaceful existence. They will probably share interests and beliefs. Both prefer one or two friends. Their emotional skin is thin. Other people look at them as odd. Both see the world as treacherous. Trust is vital. It doesn’t take much to make them lose trust. The outside world is too critical, too harsh, too cruel for this duo. They may become too enmeshed.Them against the world isn’t a healthy dynamic.Their mystical oasis free of violence and discord will crash up against the outside world. There will be rude awakenings. If anyone should come along to part them, they will be devastated. If Child River goes to college or takes a life partner, it can make Parent River depressed. She may feel abandoned.She will be fearful for her child out in the world without her. Child River’s partner may find the co-dependency too difficult to deal with.
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